Last night during one of my husband’s tantrums he said the following, “All I want is some compassion!” He was screaming in front of my oldest daughter and I about how difficult he has it. He said that he is over worked, underappreciated, and has no time for anything. It was a pure pathetic rant for all of us to feel sorry for him. My daughter pointed out to him that he has time for his friends but not his family. His stance changed immediately after she said that to him. She said, “Are you going to hit me?” He looked like a lion ready to attack. She was not provoking him in any way. She was simply stating the truth. I said something back to my husband and he looked like he was going to hit me as well. He said, “Why does everyone think I am going to hit them?” When your eyes turn dark and you are making fists with your hands, what are we supposed to think?
I was calm during his tantrum. I was praying to myself. My daughter was crying. My husband was yelling. He left the room and I consoled my daughter. My heart broke for her last night. I was so angry with my husband. I wanted to choke him. I held it all together for my daughter. I did not cry. I did not scream or yell. I stayed strong and firm. My daughter also said to him, “You have your priorities all messed up.” Consequently, this is true. Every word that came out of my daughter’s mouth was honest and truthful. My husband was irritated with me because I did not side with him. If I did, I would be handing my soul over to the Devil. That was not going to happen!
How can someone show compassion to a person who lacks compassion?
How can someone show empathy to a person who lacks empathy?
How can someone show respect to a person who is disrespectful?
How can someone show love to a person who shows hate?
My husband demands all of these things but gives NOTHING back. All he gives is more chaos and grief.
I hate to admit this but sometimes I feel my eyes drifting elsewhere………